Funeral costs are out of this world, or at least they can be if you are unprepared.
There are mandatory services funeral homes must adhere to, such as caskets even for
cremation, even though the casket will not be used for burial. The loss of a loved one
is traumatic and most are unprepared to handle the final arrangements. We are made to feel guilty, even though death is as much a part of life as birth, completely inevitable and totally unavoidable. Funeral homes try to sell the most profitable packages to
the grieving. There are alternatives. Be nice to your loved ones while they are here.
Once they depart there is nothing but the empty shell requiring proper disposition.
The soul is no longer in the remaining body. Depending on your personal beliefs
about heaven and hell, God and the afterlife or any other alternatives regarding
death, rebirth or simply turning back to dust; the simple truth is
the respectful disposition of the body must take place.
We all have to face some difficult decisions at one time or another. It is good to let your loved ones know how you feel.
I feel it is unfair to burden our loved ones with the responsibility of deciding how
our remains should be handled. Funerals can cost many thousands or can be as reasonable
as a couple of thousand dollars. I am in favour of arranging my own funeral.
Cremation with zero fanfare is a personal choice. No need to make anyone feel they have to gawk at the empty shell or some gaudy service with the traditional meaningless words.
Let me leave in a simple unassuming way. You have your chance to show how you feel while
I am here. Let me go knowing that everything has already been said and done and nothing
more can be done to change what has gone before. Anything said or done, just as things unsaid and undone are past history; feelings of guilt or remorse are unproductive and indeed are harmful. Live your life to the fullest knowing that no acts or thoughts can change the past nor is there any need to.
A simple service. Transportation from the place of death directly to the crematorium in a cremation container instead of a casket. Cremation can take place and the remains handled to your specification; an urn or burial with or without a service. You may choose to have a celebration of life in your own meaningful way but I feel this is totally unnecessary in my case. Scatter my remains over Niagara Falls and if you ever wish to remember me you will not have to visit a cemetery but simply remember I am part of the beauty offered by the Falls.
I would urge you to investigate your own options. Don't leave the difficult and
painful decisions to your loved ones. The following sites may help you in your research
but should not be restricted to these sites. You may learn something from your research
that you would not have considered. Wherever you live I am sure there are similar
suitable services available. This is NOT an endorsement of the following service providers, merely a source of information.
London
Hamilton
Ottawa
South Coast - Port Dover
A simple example I would like to share. A loved one was picked up at the hospital, transported to the crematorium and cremated with the remains delivered by UPS to his family within a few days of passing (all under $2000). All this handled online without leaving home or even a phone call. A simple no hassle final exit, just the way I would like to leave this earth. By the way, I am in no particular rush to leave.
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